What does it take.....

What does it take to be successful in life?

Honestly I don't think any body knows what it actually takes to be successful in life, I think we all have our own ideas and methods of ways that we believe will make our lives successful.

There is always the EDUCATION aspect.

People believe that higher learning leads to a successful life and lifestyle. There are studies that prove the more education you have the more likely your chances are at being successful in life.

Let's say a person who has their masters degree may be more successful in life than someone who just has a H.S Diploma because more jobs are available to them due to their higher education.

Some people believe that having a successful life is based strictly on LUCK. 

I guess its like saying life plays favorites.

Someone who constantly wins the lottery may think that their life has become successful because they have been lucky enough to win the lottery.

 I've heard some people say that to have successful life is all about relying on TALENT.

This belief means that you use your talent to make your life successful for example Chris Brown,his talent(s) have paved the way for him to be successful in life.

A-lot of us combine these ideas and believe that....

....HARD WORK, EDUCATION, LUCK, and DETERMINATION....

help a successful life form. Personally I'm not really sure  if there is exactly a way to define what it takes to have a successful life because it all depends on the individuals meaning of what a successful life is. We all have different goals and expectations of what we want in life. In my opinion being successful in life means living to your own accord, setting out to reach your goals, and aspiring to follow your dreams.

Don't let any one else set your standards on what being successful in life means,march to the beat of your own drum!

IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT THEY SAY!!

I created this video to let people know that as long as you love yourself and believe/trust in who you are it doesn't matter what the people around you are saying.

I love to cook!

Lately I've been thinking maybe I should be a CHEF! 

I really enjoy cooking and it's something I have a passion and a drive for. I don't know why I haven't went to culinary school but that is seriously something that I'm considering. I've always enjoyed watching cooking shows, and every since I was kid I have watched my mother,aunts, and grandmother cook. I like creating different recipes and even though sometimes those creations suck other times they are really awesome! I think cooking is one of those things that I enjoy doing but if it were my job I might hate it. I've always wanted to own my own restaurant, one of those cozy restaurants where you can just come to enjoy some good food and relax. If I owned my own restaurant I could cook some days and others just over see everything,Right? Restaurants seem to be one of the hardest things to maintain in today's economy so that is kind of discouraging.I would like to work on my baking skills so that I can make all those fancy cake designs that I see on TV. I watch people like Rachel Ray and get really inspired. She is so down to earth and fun,if I were to be a chef she would be my inspiration. I guess I will figure out my cooking dilemma one day!

Below are a few pictures of random pictures I took of food I prepared.

                                                                               Nachos.

                                                                             

                                                                                  Fresh Salsa.

                                                                            Ham scramble with wheat toast.

                                                                         Meatloaf,cheese potatoes,and greens.

                                                                             Bacon,eggs,pancakes.

                                                                            Pork chops cooked with onions,peppers,and tomatoes.

Chicken breast, fresh broccoli, and potatoes with parsley and a garlic butter sauce.

Love?

People constantly try to put a definition on what love is but in my opinion you can't. Love is an emotion and when it comes to love the feeling is different for everybody. You can't define a word that holds a different meaning to everyone. "What is love", will always be an age old question because love has many critics so therefor it will always have many definitions. I hate when people say,"Your too young to know what love is." Love doesn't have an age minimum. Love is something that just happens regardless if your 15 or 50, it just happens. Other people can't tell you if what you feel is love or not because they aren't the ruler of your heart. Granted some people don't know the difference between  

LOVE and LUST

but again if it's not your heart who are you to label another persons thoughts or feelings? I don't think love is something any one can control you simply can't help if you love someone or not.
A lot of people say,"Fuck love" but I think once they find the one that was meant for them their perspective will change. Yes sometimes love does hurt but in the same breath it is a beautiful feeling and there isn't anything like loving someone who loves you back. I'm not a love guru but I do think that there is somebody for everybody and I do think that "The ultimate love story" is finding the person that you absolutely can't live without, the person you care about more than you care about yourself.

I've always dreamed of having a fairytale love story like the ones you read in books or see in movies but the truth is you have to make your own fairytale. You have to create your own happy ever after. 

 The biggest part of love is you have to live it according to your own terms you can't define love off of somebody else's feelings, because another persons feelings may not express how someone makes you feel. Before you give up on love, give it a chance. You will be surprised where love decides to finally bloom!

Check out the two quotes below and I will see you all next blog!

At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet.
--Plato

Love can touch us one time and last for a life time, and never let go until we're gone.
--Unknown(From Titanic)

CHAR (The Bad Girls Club)

First off let me start off by saying......

WHY THE FUCK IS CHAR ON THE SHOW?

I watch the show for entertainment purposes and she messes that up for me. Granted the show is already full of drama but this heffa brings more drama than it's worth. She claims Nikki and Lauren are so childish but she stirs shit up between them and the other house members for no reason. The chick is 27 or 28 and has a corporate job, why in the world would you even want to be apart of some shit like the Bad Girls Club. Someone as sophisticated and classy as she claims to be shouldn't even want to be apart of such madness. 27 isn't old but most of the Bad Girls are in their early twenty's so 9 times of 10 the things that their doing a 27 or 28 year old has already done, and probably is pass it on top of such the Bad Girls Club is all about being crazy and having fun......

Again why is Char on the show? 

I can't stand when the brawd says,"Play with it and rotate." What in the hell does that even mean? There are so many things that she does to show that she is a coward. The minute Lauren hit her in the face she walked away and started to cry, what happened to being
BILLY BADASS?
I know it isn't easy living in that house but don't go walking around like your better than people and above everything else don't be slick with your words and not be able to back them up. She really thinks she runs the house but deny's that she ever said that when the tapes clearly prove other wise. She is one of those people who does things when they are convenient and expects everyone to follow her lead. Fuck that! It seems like every time Char gets into with Nikki or Lauren one of the other girls is there to back her up and when they aren't she backs down. No matter where you are in life you need to be able to back yourself up with our without other people and Char simply can't do that. I think her problem is that she is insecure and she feels threatened by the younger girls. What killed me was when she was talking to Tanisha and the caller asked why she hadn't brought any one home. She said because her standards were high and pretty much that she was looking for something serious. WTF? Honey you don't go on the Bad Girls Club and party every fucken night and expect to find Mr. Right.
GET OVER IT!!!!

I really just can't stand her uppity want to be.....
H.B.I.C(Head Bitch In Charge)

Okay I won't waste my time on her any longer I will see you all next blog!

Job Interview

I don't have much to say today because I'm on such a high right now about this job interview. I have an interview tomorrow for a customer service job with a company that does advertising. My fingers are crossed and I've prayed on it so I'm going to walk in there tomorrow with my game face on and my head held high.
Wish me luck!

JOB HUNTING!!!!

 Well I have been UNEMPLOYED for almost two months now and I'm going insane. I really would like a job that is secure so I can finally move out of my aunts house into my own apartment. Today I took it upon myself to apply at the Detroit Zoo but considering the fact the that I don't like being outside and I'm scared of most animals, I really don't know how much help I will be if I were to be hired. I refuse to work in a fast food establishment again unless of course I was in dire need of money, which I'm not but than again I am!!!! I have an over the phone interview tomorrow for a summer camp position in Chicago but again I'm not to excited about working outside, plus I would have to come out of pocket to go to Chicago. There goes that darn phrase "IT TAKES MONEY TO MAKE MONEY". I also applied to Best Buy but those bastards never call. I really cant be picky at this point, some days I just wish my previous job would call me back and say,"Hey Amber we really need you back in the office." Wishful thinking, RIGHT? I would jump for joy but I guess that job is and will stay in the past. Looking for a job is most certainly stressful especially when businesses tell you to complete ON-LINE applications but never review them. I want to be out of my aunt's house by DECEMBER 5th, which is my 21st birthday. That goal isn't looking to realistic right now. I've applied at Hotels, Walmart, Meijers, CVS, and more but still
NO CALLS.....................

I'm extremely HOPEFUL that I will find something one of these days. I feel like I'm one application closure to a job or at-least I hope that I am because I'm tired of lint being the only thing in my pockets!!!!

If tomorrow never comes

I stumbled upon this Lyfe Jennings song,"If Tomorrow Never Comes." I've listened to this song several times in a row and it really has me thinking about my life and the choices I've made. Nothing in this world is promised yet we waste so much time and energy being mad or dwelling on things/people that have no relevance in our lives. We spend so much time being angry at the people we love or trying to avoid our feelings until we find a way to place every little letter and sentence together to fit perfectly. We tend to think that apologies can wait but after all  WHAT IF TOMORROW NEVER COMES?

I really don't have much to say I just want you all to listen to this song.

Until next time, enjoy your family, learn to forgive and move forward, rejoice in the day that the lord has made!

I think this quote is a perfect way to close out this blog.

"Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever."
- Keri Russell

My business...Isn't your business

Today was another lame day in The Life of Amber. I didn't do anything but my day was pretty smooth.

Today's topic is about (M.Y.O.B) minding your own business. I'm a pretty private person, I keep most people on a need to know basis very few people know me on a personally level. Personally I don't care who you are if I don't want you to know something I'm not going to tell you. I really get pissed off by people who think they are entitled to know all of my business when it has NOTHING to do with them. I can't even fully get into the situation right now because I'm preoccupied but I think I made my point, people just need to worry about what concerns them and keep their noses out of other peoples lives. It's like people don't have anything interesting going on in their lives so they feed on other peoples business and relationships, not a good look.
That's all she wrote.

Nothing to say

 

I really don't have much to talk about. My day was pretty LAME. I went to Walmart and got irritated with all the shoppers(vultures). People piss me off they would rather squeeze by or wait stupidly instead of saying excuse me. Sometimes I will just be ignorant and stand in the way just because someone won't say excuse me. I have to hold my tongue most days because I tend to want to go off which is really uncalled for. Other than shopping I had to drive in the snow. It's fine and dandy that it's snowing but where were the damn plow trucks? It was so sloppy that you couldn't see the lines in the road people were just driving, playing follow the leader. I'm not a fan of snow but I can deal with it but between stupid drivers, and slush snow was my worst enemy today. My car on the other hand really isn't a fan of snow, she runs but she doesn't run like she does in the summer :-(  BUMMER!

That was pretty much my day. I did text my ex and it turns out that he does have a new girlfriend but he thinks it's okay because he loves me and doesn't love her. First he said it was just a facebook crush now he confirms that she is his girlfriend. He misses me and her but he still wants to be with me but he's with her. How dumb does all of that sound? It's okay because I am going to just move on and let him be a thing of the past, nothing will ever change. 

That is pretty much everything that happened today, pretty boring huh? Well I won't bore you any more, maybe on Tuesday when I write my next blog something interesting will happen....maybe not but I will see you then!

The Last Song

I'm not a big Miley Cyrus fan but out of boredom I watched the movie she was in," The Last Song." I didn't get to see the beginning so I will have to watch it again but basically the film is about a girls relationship with her father. After watching the movie I began thinking about my own dad. The girl (Miley) has a rocky relationship with her dad but goes to spend the summer with him and her brother. Towards the end of their summer she finds out that he is ill. I'm not sure what ailed him because I missed that part, but she began thinking about her relationship with him and the distance between him and her music.  I related to this movie because much like Miley's character I push people away and I'm not always the nicest to my dad but it would kill me if something ever happened to him. The whole time I was watching the movie I was thinking about my dad and myself. It's funny how we push the people that we love the most away. Although I may not always act like it but my dad is my world and without him I would lose my mind. My dad is the one who taught me how to ride my bike, he pitched my my first baseball and helped me shoot my first hoop. I listen to people talk poorly about their fathers and feel bad because they never got to experience what it was like having a great dad. The Last Song made me open my eyes and it shed so much light on how much family and friends mean to me. You don't turn your back on the people you love and you must forgive yourself and people for the hurt they've caused so that you can move forward in life. I recommend that people watch The Last Song and see what they can draw from the movie.

My dad and I back in "09" at my H.S Graduation